A kitten. There is a kitten balancing on his forearm. When I first saw my now-boyfriend’s Hinge profile, I stopped in my digital tracks. Clearly this meant that not only did he like cats but that this cat liked him. I’d long yearned for a cat-person partner and along with a photo of him wearing a Peep Show T-shirt, I reasoned that these similar interests were a sure sign we were meant to be together. It turns out I’m not alone in this thinking – but it’s not always ideal for a relationship.

Some 61% of daters use apps to meet people who share common interests, according to research by Healthy Framework.

According to a study by the Pew Research Center revealed that 64% of married Americans believe that having shared interests is very important for a successful marriage. Those surveyed even ranked shared interests as more essential than good sex or shared political beliefs. Why do we think this, and are shared interests really the marker of a lasting relationship?

My boyfriend and I are a year into our relationship now and I can count our mutual interests on one hand (after cats and Peep Show, the other three are pizza, weed and reggaeton, if you’re curious). I like watching reality TV; he thinks it’s drivel and would much rather put on a horror film that’ll make me weep with stress. He is obsessed with finding the most authentic, local food on vacation (the more adventurous, the better), while I find trying new foods anxiety-inducing. My hangover days routinely consist of bed-bound binge-eating, whereas he favours going to the gym – leaving me to consume junk food as though I’m in some sort of solo competition.

“When you first start dating someone, it can be exciting to discover that you have a lot in common,” says relationship expert Carmelia Ray. “However, as time passes, you may find that having too much in common can be just as challenging as having nothing.”

Dating apps like Hinge are built on the idea of finding someone whose likes and dislikes are similar to yours. Hinge’s USP might be getting your personality across with quirky conversation-starters, but we’re scanning them for interests we identify with. We might think, Ah, they’re a drinker – thank God. We examine their photos to see if they might love travelling, partying or the pub. Oh, they like vintage shopping on the weekends? Me too! Searching for commonalities is sewn into the discourse of modern dating and it’s becoming more extreme by the day. Tinder’s 2021 update included the launch of the ‘Explore’ tool to make it easier to find people with the exact same interests as you. Newer apps are even more blinkered: POM claims to match users on the basis of their listening history; Clover allows you to join groups like ‘dog lovers’; Kippo matches gamers based on the games both parties play.

“People often confuse compatibility with being the same,” says relationship psychotherapist Charisse Cooke. “It’s often the differences in relationships that can cause problems and conflict. So we may imagine someone having the same interests as us protects us from misunderstandings or disagreements.”

Perhaps this boils down to a rebellion against the badly matched relationships of our elders? After all, it’s only in the last 50 years or so that we’ve been marrying for love first and foremost. “In previous generations, the main motivation for relationships and commitment was security,” continues Cooke. “Being part of a couple or family unit was imperative for social and economic reasons.” The number of shared interests, or similarities in general, was not part of the decision-making. Cooke believes that younger generations have an “urge to merge” their lives: we want to view the world the same way, hold the same beliefs and do the same things. By doing this, Cooke believes we expect to experience less dysfunction and stress. But are we going too far in our pursuit of a clone-like “type on paper”?

For starters, having different interests from your partner allows you to become a more well-rounded person. “When dating someone with the same interests, there’s less room for growth,” says Cooke. “You may find that you stop trying new things.”

Hattie, a 27-year-old art director based in London, has wildly different music tastes from her boyfriend. But through compromise (yay to adulting!) she’s discovered a surprising appreciation of genres she thought she despised. “I used to be adamant that I hated all music without lyrics,” says Hattie, a lover of indie bands and pop bangers. “But nowadays, if I just have at least one lyric to hold onto, then I can have fun.” She now loves dance festivals like GALA and has swapped Tom Odell for Caribou on her running playlist. In turn, her boyfriend recently discovered a love of Sam Fender and Holly Humberstone – artists typically too mainstream for him – after being dragged to see them at this year’s Glastonbury festival.

“It’s essential to continue exploring new things together so your relationship can grow and change over time,” says Cooke. It’s a bit like the echo chamber effect on social media. We become narrow-minded when we seek out opinions or information that reinforce our existing views.

Different opinions and interests also prevent boredom. Mancunians Lizzie, 27, and Harry, 29, have been together for almost 10 years and note that their differences are what keep the relationship fresh. “There are interests we’ve picked up from each other and do together but it’s the separate ones which allow us to have independence and our own space,” says Lizzie. The couple certainly don’t agree on everything, especially when it comes to what constitutes fun – yoga vs rugby, for example. “You have friends for a reason,” she continues. “They’re who I have the most shared tastes with, and it makes spending time with them that much more fun.”

A sense of separate identity is essential when it comes to the unthinkable relationship breakup. Lana* is a 27-year-old tax advisor who recently split with her girlfriend of two years. “Thankfully I kept most of my hobbies separate during our relationship and this has helped me so much,” she says. “I’ve managed to retain my sense of self and the memory of her doesn’t lurk over all my favorite activities.”

Breakups can be far more traumatizing when every little thing reminds you of them (a brief break from my current partner almost ruined cats for me forever). Cooke even believes that too many shared interests can make relationships last longer than they should. “It can make leaving them that much harder, in fear you’ll never find someone you can share so much with again,” she says.

Shared hobbies can also trigger unfriendly competition. “My boyfriend and I are both really into the outdoors and fitness so when we took up climbing together I thought it’d be a great way to bond and have fun,” says 28-year-old teacher Tanya*. “But he started to get much better, much faster and it knocked my confidence. I felt discouraged, unreasonably angry and stopped enjoying it altogether.” Although she theoretically likes the idea of her boyfriend getting more into running, which is her favorite sport, Tanya anticipates it feeling like he’s encroaching on her identity. “He’s naturally quite an outspoken, dominating character and as I’m much softer, it would probably feel like he’s taking over that side of me,” she continues.

“Society has conditioned us to believe that having similar interests can equate to being romantically compatible — but in reality, having similar interests is not enough for a couple to sustain a happy and successful long-term relationship,” confirms Lisa Fei, founder and CEO of relationship wellness app Clarity. “Having similar values and ethics is what can make or break a relationship in the long run.”

Lana agrees, sharing: “I’ve discovered that having similar value systems is much more important to me. For example, do you make decisions based on the same moral code? If you don’t appreciate each other’s logic and how you get to decisions, then you don’t actually understand each other.”

Respect for each other’s differences is crucial, too. “I’m very spiritually minded,” says Tanya. “And although Jack* might roll his eyes when I say I want to sage the house or set some intentions, he would never belittle my interests because they don’t align with his.” Having different passions doesn’t mean you need to spend time doing them apart either. “My ex and I did a thing called ‘alone time together’,” says Lana. “I would read my book and she would practice on her DJ decks. It felt like we were together but we also got our essential alone time with our favorite hobbies.”

“As long as your values and non-negotiables are aligned, having different interests can be healthy,” continues Fei. “It’s differences in values about fidelity or life goals, for example, that could prove fatal to a long-term partnership,” adds Cooke.

Yes, I enjoy the many cat memes my boyfriend and I send each other. And of course it’s utter bliss when we smoke while eating pizza every Sunday. But I still don’t watch horror movies or get a kick out of trying new foods. My boyfriend is never going to watch Love Island with me or discuss the latest creative director movements in the fashion industry. And that’s fine. I have a whole host of incredible pals to do this with and more. And as for my solo hangover eating competition, it’s wonderful – more junk food for me.

*Names have been changed to protect identities

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Welcome to Money Diaries where we are tackling the ever-present taboo that is money. We’re asking real people how they spend their hard-earned money during a seven-day period — and we’re tracking every last dollar.

Today: a elementary school teacher who has a $110,800 joint income and who spends some of her money this week on a $50 donation to a family in need.

Occupation: Elementary school teacher
Industry: Education
Age: 23
Location: Central Wisconsin
Salary: $45,100
Joint Income/Financial Setup: $110,800 (my husband M. works in accounting with a salary of $65,700). All our accounts are joint, and we pay all expenses jointly.
Assets: Checking: ~$4,000 (depending on the time of month); emergency fund: $20,342.86; CD: $16,000; M.’s 401(k): ~$2,000; joint stock account: $13,476.93; Roth IRAs: ~$56,000 combined.
Debt: $0
Paycheck Amount (Biweekly): After taxes and insurance are taken out, my paycheck is about $1,300 every other week; M.’s is about $1,800.
Pronouns: She/her

Monthly Expenses

Housing Costs: $1,300 for our one-bedroom apartment.
Loan Payments: $0
Streaming Services: $29.99 (HBO, Hulu, Disney+).
Utilities: ~$120
Car Insurance: $210.39 (for two cars).
Charity Donations: $275
Phone Bill: $89 (paid to M.’s dad for our part of the family plan).
ROTH IRA Contributions: $475 each, $950 total.

Was there an expectation for you to attend higher education? Did you participate in any form of higher education? If yes, how did you pay for it?
Yes. It was always expected that my siblings and I would either go to college or trade school. I attended an in-state university and my parents paid for all my expenses. My husband M. went to the same college, and he paid for his education through scholarships, jobs, and with a little help from his parents.

Growing up, what kind of conversations did you have about money? Did your parent(s) educate you about finances?
My parents had a lot of conversations with my siblings and me about saving money, living frugally, investing, and planning for retirement. My parents really emphasized good money management habits. As soon as I got my first job, I started contributing to my Roth IRA.

What was your first job and why did you get it?
My first job (besides babysitting local families with my sisters) was as a stocker at a supermarket. I got the job to save money; I was 17 and wanted to have some personal savings before going to college. My parents also encouraged me to get the job so I could contribute to a Roth IRA and so that I could gain work experience.

Did you worry about money growing up?
No, I always felt very financially secure.

Do you worry about money now?
No, I think we are in a good place with our finances and I know we live frugally.

At what age did you become financially responsible for yourself and do you have a financial safety net?
M. and I got married a few months after graduating from college, and so I never lived in an apartment alone or had to support myself on my own income. I guess I would say I became financially responsible once I graduated from college, but I lived with my parents until I got married.

Do you or have you ever received passive or inherited income? If yes, please explain.
My parents paid for my college in full and helped me buy my car. M.’s parents helped him with some college expenses and also helped him buy his truck. My grandparents contributed heavily to my Roth IRA (I don’t know the exact amount) once I had earned income as a teenager, and they also gifted me the majority of what is in our stock account over the years. M.’s grandparents have a trust set up for each of their grandchildren, so my husband will receive $200,000 from that at some point, but not until his own parents pass away. So hopefully we are far into retirement before we have access to it.

Day One: Monday

6 a.m. — I wake up to my alarm and get out of bed. I hear my husband, M., showering in our bathroom. I get dressed and wash my face before heading to the kitchen to make breakfast. Today we’re having scrambled eggs and pancakes (I usually make a big batch of pancakes, muffins, or waffles one afternoon a week and then reheat them each morning for us).

6:40 a.m. — We head out to work. M. drops me off at the school I teach at. Most days we’re able to drive to work together because we work similar schedules, which gives us some more time together and also saves gas money.

7:10 a.m. — I arrive at school. I love teaching, and over the weekends I always look forward to seeing my students again. Today they all want to give me a hug and tell me what they did over the last couple days. The majority of my students come from immigrant families and very low income households. Many have parents who are undocumented or are undocumented themselves, so the last year has been uncertain and difficult for a lot of their families. I’m so impressed by these kids’ resilience and kindness despite the circumstances.

10:30 a.m. — After a morning of reading and writing, I sit down to plan. A lot of the students in our school are far below grade level on reading, and my class is certainly no exception. I put together reading groups, books, and activities for our reading block for the next few days. It’s hard for me to place a couple of the students in a group because they are still learning their letter sounds, but I finally decided to put them with my lowest group and see how it goes. I figure that I can have the rest of the group play a reading game during part of the time so that I can give just those two students specific help with letter sounds.

12 p.m. — I eat the lunch I packed: grapes, a cookie, and a homemade yogurt parfait. One of the office staff stops by to tell me that the mother of a student in another class was in an accident. The school is raising money for some gas and food gift cards to the family. I text M. and he says we should definitely contribute. I write a check. $50

3:45 p.m. — M. and I stop at one of our town’s parks on the way home to fish at the dock and play tennis on the public court. It’s a beautiful evening, and I’m sad that we have to leave by 5 p.m. today (we have friends coming over at 6 p.m.).

6 p.m. — We have pasta and meatballs with our friends and play games. It’s so fun (as always) to hang out with them! After they leave, M. reads a spy novel he checked out last week and I text with a high school friend and some of my sisters. My high school friend, S., and I talk about the state of the nation and the idiocy going on around us. Tonight she tells me that some of her church’s members are staying home from mass and church events because there have been deportations outside other churches in her area. It makes me feel sick and helpless, and S. suggests that I join her and her mom next month for a march in support of immigrant rights.

8 p.m. — M. and I watch part of The Italian Job, say prayers, and go to bed around 9:30 p.m.

Daily Total: $50

Day Two: Tuesday

6 a.m. — I wake up, make breakfast (eggs and pancakes again), and get ready. Today I am leaving school as soon as my class is dismissed for the day so that I can go to a doctor’s appointment, so M. is not dropping me off.

7:05 a.m. — I get to school and get myself organized for the day. When the first bell rings, some of the students that I had in my class last year stop by to say hi 🙂 It makes me so happy to hear from them.

2:45 p.m. — The day goes by fast! I quickly pack up and drive to my doctor’s office. When I check in, I see that the charges for an appointment I had last month are showing up on my account, so I pay for that ($171). $171

5 p.m. — I drive to the homeless shelter where M. and I volunteer to serve dinner every month. It’s good to see the familiar faces of the residents, and I feel ashamed of myself when I witness their optimism and gratitude (I think feeling ashamed is probably not the best reaction, but I do think it is good to realize that so many people have basic needs that aren’t met while I’m so privileged in a million ways). Many of them are elderly, walk with difficulty, or have severe dental problems, and I’m reminded of how fortunate I am that I can go to a doctor for help without worrying about the cost. We eat chicken casserole, mashed potatoes, and brownies with the residents and other volunteers once we’re done serving, and then head home.

7:15 p.m. — I pack our lunches for tomorrow and watch the news with M. We discuss our mutual dislike for a certain cabinet member and wonder about where our country is headed next.

Daily Total: $171

Day Three: Wednesday

6 a.m. — I wake up and make (the same) breakfast. The sunrise is coming through our apartment windows, and it is glorious. The Midwest change-of-seasons sunrises and sunsets are absolutely beautiful, and they always improve my mood immensely. M. and I drive to work with the windows down, letting the cool air fill the car as we sing along to my choice of music, a sappy Sinatra playlist.

10:30 a.m. — The first part of the day goes by well. My students are really understanding this unit of math, and I’m so happy. I eat my lunch (yogurt, grapes, chips, and cheese) while looking over their quizzes. My mom texts and asks if M. and I want to meet her and my dad for dinner tomorrow night. My parents live rurally about an hour and a half away from us, so it’s easy to meet them in a town about halfway between our homes.

3:30 p.m. — After school, I walk to a little park not far from M.’s work. It’s nice to move around a little and be out in the beautiful weather, and it’s easier for him to pick me up here anyway.

5 p.m. — Once we get home, I bake some pumpkin bread and cookies (I LOVE baking and cooking, but especially baking!). We go to daily mass at a little church not far from our place. The priest there preaches about loving our neighbors and trusting in God’s plan. After the final hymn, I kneel silently for a while, enjoying the peaceful atmosphere.

6 p.m. — M. and I have fish and rice for dinner and go on a walk. When we come back, I pack our lunches while he sets up some card games for us to play. We talk about our families while we play. We are driving south to see his family (they live about two hours away) this weekend.

8 p.m. — I call one of my sisters while I watch the sunset from our deck. The clouds are becoming darker and heavier, and I see that there is rain in the forecast for tomorrow. I head inside to shower.

9 p.m. — We say prayers and go to bed.

Daily Total: $0.00

Day Four: Thursday

5:45 a.m. — I wake up a little early to wind and rain. When I open the blinds, I see that our parking lot is totally flooded. The storm sewers are literally overflowing!

6:45 a.m. — M. picks me up at the door of the apartment lobby in his truck so that I don’t have to get drenched. The streets on the way to school resemble small rivers, and most cars are driving with their hazards on.

7:20 a.m. — I get to school later than usual, and half my students are missing at the time of the tardy bell. As the weather improves throughout the morning, they start showing up.

12 p.m. — I eat lunch (pumpkin bread, blueberries and yogurt, chips) while reading the news and texting one of my sisters. After lunch, I take my class out for recess. The grass is soaking wet even though the rain has passed, so we tell the kids to stay on the asphalt and woodchips. Suddenly, one of my students calls my name and points at the sky excitedly. I look up, expecting to see an airplane, but it is a huge rainbow, the kind you generally see in photographs or picture books. The other kids have noticed it too by now, and are yelling and pointing in delight. I’m amazed at how bright and clear it is, and a little lump rises in my throat. It is just such a magical moment. We don’t go inside until the rainbow goes away, so we end up staying on the playground for five extra minutes.

3:45 p.m. — After school, I walk to the park again. M. picks me up, and we stop by the store on our way home. We get apples, blackberries, flour, pasta, squash, green beans, fish, meatballs, bread, chicken, hotdogs, toothpaste, and ice cream. $62.43

5 p.m. — After we unload the groceries, we get in the car and drive to meet my parents: we all go out to dinner at a place nearby that does pizza by the slice. My mom tells us all the latest news from her large extended family. Her parents are coming to Wisconsin next week, so we make plans to spend next weekend at my parents’ place so we can see them. They live on a few acres bordering a river and have a huge barn that they’ve recently converted into a gym, so it’s a really fun place to visit. We pay for our slices of pizza. $11.21

8 p.m. — On the way home, M. and I have a little argument about something we disagree on politically. We end up “agreeing to disagree” and riding in silence most of the way. We’ve made a lot of progress since the beginning of our relationship on how we manage conflict but sometimes it’s still difficult.

9 p.m. — We say prayers, make lunches, and pack our suitcases for our visit to M.’s family tomorrow. We always move on from arguments quickly, and we’re both in a good mood by the time I get out of the shower. Even though it’s a little later than usual, we both struggle to fall asleep. I roll over to give M. a hug, and he pulls me close.

Daily Total: $73.64

Day Five: Friday

6 a.m. — It’s the last day of the school week, and we’re driving down to M.’s parents’ house right after work. We have a quick breakfast and drive through another amazing sunrise to work.

10:30 a.m. — During my planning period, I text with M.’s mom. She and I have a really close relationship, and I’m looking forward to seeing her tonight. She updates me on which family and friends will be there this weekend.

12 p.m. — I have a peanut butter and banana sandwich for lunch, along with a Snickerdoodle and some yogurt. The kids are a little antsy today — it’s usually like that on Fridays — and we decide as a grade level to give them 10 extra minutes of recess since it’s a Friday. I play tag with about half my class, and we all have a blast.

3 p.m. — M. picks me up from school and we head to his parents’ house. When we get there, I see M’s five-year-old nephew C. playing in the front yard. M. is godfather to C., and they have a special bond. C. runs to give us a big hug just as M’s brother Z. (C.’s dad) comes out to greet us. Z.’s wife, D., is here too, and she’s holding their new baby daughter, P.! It’s so good to see Z.’s family again; they live in the same town as M.’s parents so we generally get to hang out with them every time we visit. We haven’t seen them in about a month, and it’s amazing how much P. has grown!

6 p.m. — We have a fun night with M.’s family. His younger brother, K., who’s still at home, entertains us with high school drama, and everyone is in a good mood. After a dinner of Italian subs, we go for a walk around the neighborhood. I talk to D. about how her life is going with an infant and a new part-time job.

7:30 p.m. — Z.’s family says a long Midwestern goodbye and heads home for the night. I go to our room to take a shower, and when I come out, the TV is blaring the news and M. and his dad are talking about taxes.  M.’s mom is sitting with them and I know she absolutely hates it when people talk about politics, even if there is no disagreement involved. I suggest we bake something. She readily agrees and pulls out a few new recipes she’s found. We decide to try mini banana cream pies. It’s an absolute disaster but super fun.

9 p.m. — M. and I head to bed. I fall asleep almost immediately.

Daily Total: $0

Day Six: Saturday

6:30 a.m. — I wake up to the delicious smell of coffee cake. M.’s mom makes this absolutely scrumptious coffee cake whenever we’re here because it’s M.’s favorite. M. takes a shower and I go downstairs to hang out with his parents. They ask me about my class and update me on their family and friends. M. and K. join us for coffee cake and scrambled eggs, and then M.’s mom and I go out to work in her garden for a little bit. The final vegetables of the year are ready to be harvested, and we pick some good tomatoes and green beans.

10 a.m. — We meet Z.’s family at the park! There’s a little river that runs through the park, and we go fishing. M. patiently shows C. how to put a hotdog on the hook for bait. C. doesn’t catch anything, but his dad lets him “help” reel in a fish on his pole. It’s catch and release, and C. cries because he wants to keep the fish as a pet.

12:30 a.m. — M. fills up on the way back to his parents’ house. $47.91

1 p.m. — We get home and eat turkey panini and fruit salad for lunch. C. tries to convince us to feed his baby sister cantaloupe. I think he does know that babies that young can’t eat normal food, but he likes the attention and laughs that he gets.

3:00 p.m. — M.’s family is very close with another family that lives about a half-hour away, and they’re coming over for dinner tonight. I help M.’s mom prep appetizers and sides, but our guests are bringing pizza and drinks, which is really nice.

3:45 p.m. — M. and I drive to the local church for a 4 p.m. vigil mass. The church is a beautiful Romanesque building, and the music is incredible. The parish is taking up a collection for the starvation victims in Gaza. I wish I had brought my purse. I lean over and whisper to M. that we should give something; I know he has cash in his wallet. M. gives me the look that means “absolutely not”. The basket is getting closer to us. M. doesn’t look my way and the basket passes us. I feel myself getting pretty angry. I know I’m being stupid, and that I should just give online, but M is emphatically against it because he thinks the money won’t actually go to the people that are starving. I’ve looked it up and I think if we give to the right organization, we don’t have to worry about that. I was hoping that a collection through church would change his mind, but I guess there’s no such luck.

5 p.m. — After church, I give M. the silent treatment for about five minutes before his sad face gets to me. I try to explain to him that this is a cause that’s important to me, but he says he replies that we need to keep our focus on having a fun weekend with family and friends and not worry about this now.

6 p.m. — The doorbell rings, and M.’s family friends spill into the kitchen. They bring pizza, cannoli, martinis, and some weird tropical-flavored wine. I’m excited to see them again! They have four adult children around our ages. The eldest is married and recently gave birth, and the other three are guys around the ages of M. and his brothers. A couple of them bring their girlfriends. We have a blast eating dinner and playing games.

8:30 p.m. — After dinner, the families with kids head home, the parents go sit on the deck, and the rest of us go down to the basement to watch a movie. A couple of M.’s friends are pretty sloshed at this point and an intense debate over which movie to watch ensues. Somehow, our options get narrowed down to Cars 2 or Goodfellas (???). I have to take a bathroom break right before the “official vote” and when I return somehow we’re watching The Princess Bride. I love this movie, so I’m thrilled. It’s even funnier when drunk people are trying to say the lines with the actors.

10:30 p.m. — The movie ends and I’m so tired. M.’s family friends hash out designated drivers and say good night. I shower and fall asleep immediately.

Daily Total: $47.91

Day Seven: Sunday

7:15 a.m. — I wake up later than usual and quietly leave the room. My mother-in-law is awake, and we go for a walk. We have a great time talking about friends and family. She always had a good advice; in some ways, we’re very similar people. She also says she’d like to join me for the march I’m  planning on going to with S. and her mom!

10 a.m. — We spend the morning hiking and the afternoon swimming in M.’s family’s pool for the last time before they close it for the season. We have leftover pizza and cannoli for lunch.

4:30 p.m. — We pack up and leave. It’s a great day to drive with the windows down, and I feel a lot better about things after talking to M.’s mom. We stop by Culver’s on the way home. I get a milkshake and M. gets a burger and fries. $19.52

6:30 p.m. — We arrive home. I’m feeling strangely energized, so I clean the bathroom, put in a load of laundry, and pack lunches for tomorrow. It must be contagious, because M. starts vacuuming and organizing our shoe shelf. When we finish the chores, we eat ice cream and watch Finding Nemo, laughing and reminiscing about how scared we were of it as kids. I feel so lucky to be married to my best friend. I almost fall asleep on the couch but manage to wait until we get to bed.

Daily Total: $19.52

The Breakdown

Weekly Total $$ Spent: $362.07
Food & Drink: $93.16
Entertainment: $0.00
Home & Health: $171.00
Clothes & Beauty $0.00
Transportation $47.91
Other $50.00

Conclusion

“I think we did a good job spending within our budget this week. We don’t eat out very frequently (I love to bake and cook), and our grocery bill was around what it usually is. I was surprised that I only logged filling up on gas once (usually we fill up twice). The doctor’s bills are obviously unavoidable, but it’s not fun to see that expense and know that there are more coming. Recording my week made me realize how lucky I am to live near family and friends, and what an important part of my life they are. It also helped me reflect on my relationship and the disagreement M. and I had about donating. My parents always donated money to causes they believed in, but I never saw them disagree about where to donate, so this is new territory for me.”

And An Update…

“A few days after I finished recording my diary, M. and I had another conversation about donating to a Gaza aid fund. I reiterated that it was something I felt strongly about and really wanted to do, and he agreed that we could, so I donated online to a charity that provides families there with food and medical aid. I am happy that I brought it up again and that he changed his opinion when he saw how important it was to me.”

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Cosmic beings, eclipse season doesn’t mess around… and neither should you. The  recent Pisces total lunar eclipse was part one of this cosmic double feature, and now we’re moving toward the sequel: a partial solar eclipse in Virgo on Sunday the 21st.  Eclipses always come in pairs, and this week is like that quiet but restless pause between acts. You might notice your body craving simplicity, your mind craving clarity,  and your heart craving a reset. That’s because we’re in the “dark of the Moon” phase  — the few days before a new moon when the Universe basically hands you a cosmic Swiffer and says, declutter your life, babe. 

Midweek, on the 18th, Mercury shifts into Libra, giving us a breather. Conversations flow more smoothly, debates feel more balanced, and suddenly you might actually want to  hear someone else’s opinion (keyword: might). But just as you’re getting comfy, the  very next day, Venus leaves fiery Leo and enters pragmatic Virgo. If Mercury is passing  you a chilled mocktail and saying “relax,” Venus in Virgo is like, “btw, did you  remember to alphabetize your spice rack?” It’s that classic one-step-forward, one step-back energy, reminding us that eclipse season is not about control, it’s about  surrender, with a side of editing.

And then comes the main event: the Virgo solar eclipse on Sunday. Unlike the  emotional tidal wave of last week’s Pisces eclipse, this one is quieter, subtler, but no  less important. Virgo energy is about the small steps, the daily rituals, the grounding  habits that make big dreams sustainable. You don’t need to launch a 10-point transformation plan this weekend. In fact, you shouldn’t. Instead, pay attention to your  nervous system. Get outside. Touch grass, literally. Drink water. Stretch. Let your body  be the vessel for the fertile intentions that want to sprout in the months ahead.

The blessing of this eclipse? It plants seeds for the next six months, seeds that may  take their time, but will grow with steady devotion. Think of yourself as fertile ground,  not a machine. Virgo wants you to trust that progress happens in increments, not  instant gratification. So this week, as Mercury reminds you to connect with grace and  Venus dares you to simplify your love and money story, know that the real magic is  already germinating under the surface. Your only job is to breathe, release, and prepare  to say yes to what wants to grow.

Read your horoscopes for your Sun and Rising signs for the most in-depth forecast. 

Aries Sun & Rising:

Aries, are you noticing how your relationships are mirroring back your own growth?  Mercury’s entrance into Libra on the 18th activates your partnership zone, and since  this week builds toward Sunday’s Virgo solar eclipse, relationships are the biggest  teachers. Someone close to you could reflect both your best qualities and your blind  spots. Stay open but discerning. Harmony doesn’t mean ignoring your own needs — it  means finding ways to stand tall in your truth while still respecting the rhythm of  another’s. This is especially key because the eclipse is ruled by Mercury, and your  conversations this week can become the seeds of major shifts over the next six  months.

Venus’s shift into Virgo on the 19th points the spotlight to your health and daily habits.  Combined with the Virgo eclipse on the 21st, this is your cosmic nudge to get real  about your wellness routines. Are you running on fumes or giving your body what it  needs? Try not to over-police yourself… you’re not a robot, you’re a human in  transformation. With Mars preparing to enter Scorpio next week, the fire of reinvention  is coming, but right now you’re asked to lay a gentler foundation. Think: nourishment,  boundaries, and remembering that your body is a temple, not a battleground.

Taurus Sun & Rising:

Taurus, love might be asking you to loosen your grip a little. With Venus, your ruling  planet, moving into Virgo on the 19th, right before the Virgo solar eclipse, your heart is  ready for new levels of devotion. This eclipse lands in your zone of creativity, romance,  and fate, making it one of the most magical moments of your year. But here’s the  catch: you can’t control how love unfolds. If you’ve been nitpicking yourself or others,  take a deep breath and choose presence. The eclipse brings breakthroughs in love and art, but only if you resist expecting perfection.

Mercury’s move into Libra on the 18th helps you weave this magic into your daily life.  Libra energy brings more flow into your routines, encouraging you to balance structure  with flexibility. A partnership — romantic or professional — might inspire you to refine  the way you work or create. Venus in Virgo will harmonize with your earthy energy, but  the eclipse amplifies it. So ask yourself: if your inner child could dream up their ideal  romance, project, or creative pursuit, what would it look like? This is the week to plant  those seeds.

Gemini Sun & Rising:

Gemini, the Universe is turning up the volume on your voice. Mercury, your ruler, struts  into Libra on the 18th, highlighting creativity, love, and pleasure. Since the upcoming  Virgo solar eclipse is ruled by Mercury (just like you), your words and ideas are  especially powerful now. Don’t be surprised if a conversation this week reshapes your outlook on love or inspires a creative breakthrough. The solar eclipse on the 21st roots  this inspiration at home, asking: what foundations are you building so your creativity  has room to thrive?

Venus entering Virgo on the 19th ties directly into this eclipse energy. This is your  chance to ground your restless energy into something tangible within your home and  family life. Maybe you reorganize your living space to invite more peace, or maybe you  finally have that heart-to-heart with someone under your roof. Venus in Virgo wants  your love life to feel practical and nourishing, not just fleeting fun. And since the eclipse  falls in this same sector, whatever intentions you set now around your home, security,  and roots will ripple through the next six months.

Cancer Sun & Rising:

Cancer, you’re riding a wave of heightened sensitivity, and yes, it’s a lot. The Pisces  eclipse two weeks ago already stretched your emotional bandwidth, and now the  upcoming Virgo solar eclipse on the 21st takes it further by shining on your zone of  communication and self-expression. You may feel like you need to say something  you’ve been holding in. Mercury’s move into Libra on the 18th pushes you to balance  honesty with harmony, especially at home or with loved ones. Remember: speaking  your truth doesn’t mean spilling every thought. It means choosing words that align with  your higher self.

Venus’s move into Virgo on the 19th sets the tone for the eclipse weekend. This energy  wants you to refine how you communicate in relationships, and the eclipse magnifies it.  You might realize you’ve been editing yourself to avoid conflict, or on the flip side, over explaining to be understood. Venus in Virgo helps you simplify: say less, mean more.  And as the Moon renews in Virgo, this is your chance to plant intentions around writing,  teaching, or even social media use. Just keep an eye on Venus’s shadow: self criticism. Your words are spells, Cancer, so make sure they’re kind and intentional, especially toward yourself.

Leo Sun & Rising:

Leo, the spotlight may feel heavier than usual, but that’s because the Universe knows  you can carry it. Mercury’s move into Libra on the 18th emphasizes your  communication zone, making this a week where your voice can open doors. Conversations you have now carry eclipse-level weight, especially as we approach the  Virgo solar eclipse on the 21st. If there’s a story you’ve been afraid to tell, or a truth  you’ve been hesitant to share, Mercury in Libra encourages you to deliver it with grace,  not fear. Remember: harmony isn’t about silencing yourself… it’s about choosing the  words that best honor your power.

Venus leaves your sign on the 19th, sliding into Virgo and syncing with the eclipse in  your self-worth and financial zone. This is a reality check moment, Leo: how are you  treating your money, and how are you letting it treat you? Venus in Virgo loves  precision, but be careful not to slide into scarcity thinking or nitpicking your progress.  The eclipse magnifies where you’ve been underestimating your value and pushes you  to raise the bar. Think: new opportunities to monetize your passions, healthier money  boundaries, and a fresh relationship with abundance that mirrors your true worth.

Virgo Sun & Rising:

Virgo, you’re the main character this week, and the Universe isn’t subtle about it.  Mercury, your ruler, steps into Libra on the 18th, highlighting your money and values  zone. Because the upcoming solar eclipse in your sign is ruled by Mercury, the  conversations and decisions you’re making about your resources right now are infused  with long-term impact. Pay attention to any shifts in how you earn, save, or spend…  these are clues to the new chapter that Sunday’s eclipse wants you to write. You’re  balancing practicality with harmony, especially in how you share and receive resources  with others.

On the 19th, Venus joins the party in your sign, just two days before the partial solar  eclipse in your sign crowns you with new beginnings. It’s a cosmic reset button for your  identity and how you show up in the world. Venus helps you refine your glow-up, not  just physically, but emotionally, financially, and spiritually too. The temptation may be to  scrutinize every detail of your journey, but the eclipse wants you to surrender control  and embrace your becoming. This is your time to plant intentions around confidence,  relationships, and purpose. Think less about “fixing yourself” and more about  celebrating yourself.

Libra Sun & Rising:

Libra, your season is around the corner, but first you’re being asked to clear the clutter.  Mercury moves into your sign on the 18th, sharpening your voice and reminding you  how powerful your words can be. Since Sunday’s Virgo solar eclipse is ruled by  Mercury, your clarity and charm will influence how you navigate the shifts of this week.  Partnerships and contracts might feel highlighted, and your ability to advocate for  yourself while creating harmony is your magic. Don’t shy away from speaking up —  you’re being called to step into your role as the diplomat and decision-maker.

The eclipse itself, however, takes place in Virgo on the 21st, just two days after Venus  moves into that same sign. This double Virgo influence shines on your zone of solitude,  healing, and closure. Old wounds, patterns, or limiting beliefs may resurface — not to  haunt you, but to be released once and for all. Having your ruler Venus in Virgo for the  next four weeks could tempt you to be overly critical of your healing journey, but  remember: progress isn’t linear. This final eclipse of 2025 is a cosmic cleanse. Plant  seeds around self-compassion, boundaries, and choosing peace over perfection.

Scorpio Sun & Rising:

Scorpio, the cosmos just turned the volume up on your heart’s desires. Mercury’s  entrance into Libra on the 18th activates your hidden world, encouraging you to sort  through your subconscious patterns before you speak or act. With Sunday’s partial  solar eclipse in Virgo being ruled by Mercury, the Planet of Communication, you may  notice secrets, dreams, or inner truths bubbling up this week, asking to be  acknowledged. This isn’t about hiding… it’s about making space for what’s been  quietly guiding you. Your intuition is your compass now, and if you lean into it, you’ll  see the eclipse’s lessons with greater clarity.

Then comes the main event: Venus shifts into Virgo on the 19th, amplifying Sunday’s  Virgo solar eclipse in your zone of friendships, networks, and community. This is your  reminder that you don’t have to walk your path alone. Some Scorpios might welcome  new soul-aligned friendships, while others might gracefully release connections that  have run their course. The eclipse highlights who truly supports your vision and who  drains it. Venus softens the edges, helping you approach these transitions with love,  not resentment. By planting seeds of community now, you’re building a support system  that mirrors your transformation.

Sagittarius Sun & Rising:

Sag, the cosmos is testing just how high you’re willing to aim. Mercury enters Libra on  the 18th, spotlighting your friendships and networks, and reminding you that your voice  holds major influence right now. People are watching, listening, and mirroring your  energy, which is why this pre-eclipse week feels like a sneak preview of the larger plot  twists to come. Be intentional about what you share, and with whom. Align your words  with your truth, and you’ll magnetize the allies who are meant to walk with you into this  next season.

Venus’ move into Virgo on the 19th adds even more weight to Sunday’s upcoming  solar eclipse in Virgo, both landing in your career zone. Think: reputation reset. Whether  you’ve been craving recognition, searching for direction, or considering a pivot, this  eclipse shines a floodlight on your professional path. Don’t be surprised if new doors  open suddenly, or if old ones slam shut with finality. Either way, trust the rerouting.  Venus helps you refine your craft and approach your career with discernment. This is  about building sustainable success, not burning yourself out chasing approval.

Capricorn Sun & Rising:

Cap, the Universe just handed you a giant map… are you ready to follow it? Mercury,  the Planet of Communication, enters Libra on the 18th, illuminating your career zone  for the next three weeks, and since the upcoming Virgo solar eclipse eclipse is ruled by  Mercury, these conversations at work are infused with destiny. You may have to  advocate for yourself in boardrooms or with authority figures, but the clarity you bring  is exactly what’s needed. Balance ambition with diplomacy, and you’ll realize that  sometimes the strongest move is the one that unites rather than divides.

Then comes Venus in Virgo on the 19th, magnifying the Virgo solar eclipse on the 21st  in your expansion sector. This eclipse wants you to take a leap, but in true Virgo  fashion, it’s a calculated leap. Whether it’s higher education, publishing, or international  opportunities, you’re being nudged to break out of routines and chase a dream that’s  been tugging at you. Venus softens the edge, reminding you that it’s safe to dream  bigger while still being practical. This isn’t escapism — it’s self-devotion and  sustainable elevation.

Aquarius Sun & Rising:

Aquarius, the winds of change are blowing straight through your soul, and there’s no  stopping them. Mercury’s entrance into Libra on the 18th turns your attention to  expansion, travel, and philosophy. Since the upcoming Virgo solar eclipse is ruled by  Mercury, the themes of What do you believe? Where are you headed? Who do you  want to become? are taking center stage. Your answers are shifting, and that’s okay.  Eclipses aren’t here to preserve your comfort zone; they’re here to stretch you out of  them.

Meanwhile, Venus, the Planet of Love, enters Virgo on the 19th, syncing with the  upcoming solar eclipse in your intimacy and merging sector. For you, this final eclipse  of 2025 is about depth, trust, and transformation. Who are you letting in, and who are  you keeping out? Venus encourages you to refine how you share your resources, love,  and energy. Sunday’s eclipse could bring breakthroughs in intimacy, financial  partnerships, or even healing generational wounds. Think of this as a cosmic detox:  only what’s real, mutual, and nourishing can stay.

Pisces Sun & Rising:

Pisces, brace yourself… you’re at the heart of this week’s cosmic drama. Mercury’s  move into Libra on the 18th activates your intimacy and shared-resources zone,  sharpening conversations around trust, debt, or emotional bonds. Since the upcoming  Virgo solar eclipse rules this week and directly opposes your sign, these dialogues  aren’t casual — they’re karmic. Expect revelations in your closest bonds. Some will  deepen, others may dissolve. Trust the unfolding.

Venus entering Virgo on the 19th amplifies Sunday’s Virgo solar eclipse in your  relationship zone. For you, this is relationship reset energy. Whether it’s romantic,  platonic, or professional, the eclipse is asking you to plant seeds of honesty and  commitment in your partnerships. Venus softens the lessons, reminding you that love  thrives in the details: showing up, listening, compromising. This is about building  connections that can weather storms. If someone exits your life now, it’s making space  for someone more aligned with your evolving self.

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With three whole weeks of epic beauty offers, there’s a lot to choose from. Luckily, our team of editors has combed through the entire sale calendar to highlight the deals truly worth your attention — and your money. Expect rare discounts on everything from premium hairstyling tools to signature scents, and first-time savings on new-to-sale brands like Polite Society, Kylie Cosmetics, NARS, Sacheu, and many others.

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Earlier this year, the Mexican-American artist launched a capsule with the active lifestyle brand that’s functional for workouts but also stylish enough for casual, streetwear looks. Inspired by Becky G’s L.A. upbringing and Latina roots, the line is bold, vibrant, and effortlessly cool. The pieces are designed to transition easily from fitness to day‑to‑day life. And, like intended, I’ve been using it for both.

On a recent trip to Thailand, I threw on the Principal Low Impact Bra with the PureLuxe Mini Skirt in buttery yellow for a resort brunch and kept it on for a post-meal cardio session. Another day, I wore the PureLuxe Halter Mini Dress in crisp white for an impromptu photo shoot at the resort’s rooftop boxing gym, followed by a few (very uncoordinated) rounds at the heavy bag. In these pieces, I felt both comfortable and confident.

“Each piece is meant to bring forth a sense of bold confidence, whether walking down the street with your friends and family or in a workout studio of your choice,” Becky G told Women’s Wear Daily back in February, when the capsule first launched.

Since then, the collaboration has expanded with additional drops, including styles made from Fabletics’ PureLuxe fabric, which offers a soft feel with just the right amount of compression. Click through to see the standout pieces I tried and why I’m basically living in them these days.

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